Sorry for my contribution to the meta conversation, dj. I think what we're ALL trying to tell you is to take a breath before sending email blasts like that, and really back and think about what YOU want out of the relationship, and how you might be able to take one more crack (a la Pearlharbr) at seeing if your wife can step up and respond to it.
I was just re-reading the latest posts and I seem to be talking past you, and I didn't mean to.
