I tried looking through your thread but don't see it.
I think the NC is tricky. For me, it doesn't seem to matter. If I contact first, he will respond immediately. If I disappear, he'll find an excuse for contact in a few days or so. But our face-to-face interactions are the same, regardless. We have a very cordial/friendly R right now. Even after a blow-up like we had on Friday, he's right back to cordial/friendly.
I bring this up because it's going to depend on your sitch. I don't think it will make things better, in and of itself. It may not do damage, but it most likely won't help. I don't think he's sitting over there wishing you would call. It may push him further. That's the problem...you don't know. BUT, maybe try it and see. If it backfires, don't do it any more.
Hang in there.
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5
