I appreciate what you're saying. Frankly, I think a year is too long as well, there's no way she's gaining any respect for me there. I can see another 3-6 max for her to see the changes of DB, and me hoping A ends.
If I go before 6 months, I'll take a beating. This is no-fault land. Adultery grounds almost always turn into no-fault. With only circumstantial evidence, She'll tell everyone I abandoned her and the kids. A? What A? boo hoo hoo.
If I make a move before A ends, about all I can do is ask her if she will stop A and go to MC (she won't), then ask her to x (and it doesn't matter what x is, she won't, you controlling SOB), then tell her that we're done, at which point I would have to file to have any credibility. Everybody loses.
