Separate and Filed walking on

[paul19510]

journal: I emailed W with follow up statuses from all teachers regarding status of D16 due to accommodations from concussion. no response. D16 started talk therapy this week. D16 asked for space from W (W continues to call, text, Fb msg her almost daily to try and engage her). I asked D16 if that was ok. She said it was stressing her more. I asked if I may carefully communicate to W that D16 needs space. D16 agreed that would be fine.

I sent a short email to W stating that D16 is continuing to move along with therapy and has specifically asked for space during this time as she works on things. I told W that D16 has heard her and that she will respond as soon as she is able. I told W that I've encouraged D16 to maintain her relationships and allow them to flourish as she is able to do so.

W continues to be more "foreign" each day. Filing for D has not resolved any of the emotional issues that have lead to the death of the M or any of the aftermath for our family. Filing has only insulated us for further financial harm.

my older Brother contacted me as a courtesy to say W called his W (my W and brother's W are old friends for 30 years and we introduced my Brother to his W). My brother's MIL passed away last weekend, I called W and told her about the loss because of the long friendship the girls share. my brother relayed to me that in the hour long talk W never mentioned me or the D situation and only really spoke about herself and her horse activities. I'm glad he mentioned that she called.

I understand more at this point, that W didn't like her life and "threw that life away". Seeing it this way, make me see that I am only collateral damage in this and that I was not solely responsible for W's unhappiness or her decision to leave this life behind. My walk continues. Its cold and windy, but I'm bundling up against it.