I guess I'm patient because I know my wife to be a really kind, generous person, and a wonderful mother. She is still that way to everyone else, except for a few people who are very pro-M and didn't buy into her blame fest. She has shelved them for now.
She is targeting me as the root cause of everything now. I'm addressing what I know to be mine, and I hope that she will come to find that her stuff has always been hers to fix. I don't expect her to come back, but she might come through.

I'm also big on vows, a man of my word. If I D her, put the kids through that trauma and then she comes through, I'd regret that. I often wonder though if it will take a D to initiate any change.

Am I wrapped around her finger? Admittedly, but I do believe there is a point at which every game gets called for time. Can I see life without her? More clearly each day.

I still think that something has to give, so I think she's worth waiting for.

I mean, how long can A go on? OM calls her, she's cooing while he's only talking about meeting up, then they go for a 13 minute nooner, then he drives off. (13 minutes! ha! rank amateur! but still 13 minutes more than I'm getting) It's seems likely to me that he's in it for the sex and has no desire to D his family and then take on my young kids. At some point, does she wake up to the fact that she's being used?

Or maybe she knows he's just a diversion and it's really all about getting away from me. Who knows. You could overthink this stuff to death and get nowhere. I have a lot more enjoyment out of working with the kids and GALing; at least that is productive.

At times I almost have to laugh at the incongruous behavior. At times, when she's sobbing in her sleep, it pains me to see my W in such turmoil with no way to help. Her choices, her problem.

Of course, I always wonder if I could take a more productive approach to move the ball down the field.

And then there are other days when I think summer would be a good time to sell the house, and I start looking at real estate that would satisfy my needs better than the current house and keep the kids in the same school district. It's days like those when I realize that I am putting plans in place.