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[tbm4evr]

Good morning,

Yesterday went smoothly; W and me discussed things in the morning and we both did our part to get the days tasks done.

W and daughter went shopping for son's birthday presents. They left at 6 and I thought they would be home by 730 but arrived at 9. I made nothing of it but of course my daughter gave me the details of where they went. In the past i would have complained about her being out past daughters bedtime, if she wasnt shopping for herself she could have been home at a more reasonable time, etc. - those days are long gone though. One of the stores is where my W's girlfriend works in the cosmetics department, so I just casually said was "xx" working tonight and she said yes and started talking about the great deals she got. Last time I raised hell because she spent $2000, this time she said she didn't spend as much as last time. I didnt say a word about what was spent just said those products she sells really seem to be working for you - W is one to fight the aging process with botox, etc She says "yeah my friends say that too" and then says "its also that I can see the light at the end of the tunnel" ....i knew exactly what she meant -the D- and I just said "come on" ..she smiled ...and I dropped it. She then showed me the gifts she picked up for our son and I showed her a couple things I picked up for him too. We decided to go out for dinner with grandparents and an aunt for our son's birthday on Friday and then back to our house for cake.

It was now after 10 and W said she was going to bake cupcakes for son's birthday for school. So I let her do her thing and stayed out of the kitchen - she always hated how i used to hover over her, hang around and watch what she did. But at one point I went to the kitchen, and on the counter were the utility bills - she says can you pays those? I said with the agreements we have with the D we are to both pay what we have always paid. She says I'm broke. I said fine I'll pay it. I said remember we've got taxes due April 15 and are going to pay alot. She said I've always paid the bills and we've always saved your paychecks. I said "Well that's because you can't save. Depending on where things go I don't have a problem pooling our paychecks in one account as long as we can agree on an amount to save every month." She said you haven't suggested that in all the time we've been married. I said if it bothers you that much, it's fine as long as we agree on what's saved because I know you will burn through the money - that's where I left it; got a beer and went back to watching the hockey game. The conversation was not argumentative at all and lasted only a few minutes.

Once W has cupcakes in oven, W comes and sits with me and asks if i can pick up kids from school tomorrow and get a tupperware container for the cupcakes and says "we" can use it next year. I said sure. She said she's going to go to the gym and tanning and will pick up dinner and decorate the cupcakes with the kids tomorrow evening. I said great and that it was getting late so good night and headed off to bed -Since her filing for D, I have always been saying goodnight first; just figure I'll give her the space - we used to always head to bed together at the same time.

This morning we do our normal routine, once W gets to work she texts me that she pulling tax stuff together and says she doesn't see that our tax estimate was paid in January. I just text her back "you know what happened"- meaning she filed so I had to pay for an attorney - and "we may still be ok on taxes no stress". I was going to say that the taxes were the least of my worries considering we are going through D process but didnt.

Have a great day everyone. Always appreciate anyone's insight.

tbm