Why does it still sting? My guess is that by now you don't want him back, but you don't like being the one that was left without understanding (accepting his BS) that you are to blame. i.e. there's no discernible reason other than he "didn't have those feelings" anymore.
That's not what you signed up for, when you talked about commitment, marriage and family, is it?
That's just a guess though. The thing is, you wouldn't take him back if he were struck by lightning and had a major epiphany. You just would not do that any longer. There was a time...
So if you don't want him, you're still at that point of pain that says, if I can't be happy and it's his fault, why should he be allowed to even look happy?? That's not fair...
And it's not fair. It's how it is.
The OW? It would actually be easier on you if he dumped her and then had a different GF. Easier on your ego. Not because OW is worth it, but because she represents. Believe me, OW is no prize. I'd chew my leg off to get away from that kind of crazy and drama...
You're making great progress WH. You really are, even if it's hard to see and feel. But you're doing awesome and doing all the right things. It's just going to take some time to get through it all. The more the legal stuff gets behind you, the easier it becomes...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
