My wife and I have been together for 13 years, married for almost 8. Our two little boys are 9 and 5, they now live with me full-time as she sees them a couple of nights per week but only keeps them alternate Saturdays. She has changed so dramatically as a person, she was such a devoted wife and mother and this affair has completely messed with her head. Th fact that she is able to leave her boys in this way also really shocks me. We made the decision about this due to my eldest son being mildly autistic, he was really struggling for the first few weeks going from our home to her apartment so we thought it best that the boys sleep here almsot all of the time. I should point out that there is 19 year age gap between myself and my wife although we had never had an issue with that as I am young for my age and it only came up as she has been trying to find explanations for why she had the affair. What really bothers me is that prior to his happening I believed we were happy.No we weren't perfect but I felt loved and we had a lovely life and everything seemed good. All of a sudden she has changed and I barely recognise her, she refuses to discuss or try to work at our problems and just says she needs time and space. When I asked her the other day did she feel any different she said if anything she was further away, that really hurt as I have been trying so hard to give her the space, although I have struggled to avoid relationship conversations when we are together. She is behaving like a teenager in ways wanting to go out and almost distancing herself from her role as a wife and mother. I have no clue how to handle this...
