So, my H has continued with the calling just to check in thing he had started doing again. I think it means that he must still feel some sort of connection, but going down that path leads me to having expectations, so I'm trying to stay away from that. Yesterday, he called several times about our taxes. He files them every year and was missing a few things he needed. Separately from those calls, he also called me at work a few times just to talk about what was going on at his office. His boss is on vacation for two weeks, so he's having to deal with lots of stuff his boss usually handles. That continued today. He called to vent about work a couple times and then called again later to tell me that he had to go to a business dinner that he hadn't anticipated. In addition to that, he called just as I was beginning this post to tell me he was on his way home (to his apartment) from dinner/drinks. This was particularly surprising as he hasn't been doing that, even when he's told me he has plans.
In general, I try to not make myself too available. When I'm really busy at work, I don't answer or call back immediately. I also try to get off the phone first. He did end the call tonight first. It was actually pretty abrupt. There's a HUGE part of me that wants to text him and say "that was strange," but I'm resisting the temptation.
In many ways, our relationship lately has many of the elements it always has had. I've been supporting him with some stuff he has going on at work. He also has an uncle who is on hospice, so he's been talking to me about that. I've been looking for a new job for a few months now and he's always checking in to see how that's going and giving me advice. He just doesn't live in our house anymore. Oh, and the physical relationship is absent, which is really tough for me with physical touch being my primary LL. Honestly, the increase in contact from him over the last couple of weeks is pretty confusing.
