Wife moved out to be with her Tour Guide Lover

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You concentrated this whole post on your W's A and about the tour guide. But what were the marriage issues that the two of you had? You keep mentioning that you gave her everything (material) that she wanted when instead most women are looking for emotional connections more than monetary. How was your relationship with her in that area?

We had an interesting dance. Early in our marriage we got along great. After we bought our first house things started to move towards a point of mild disconnection. The arguments increased and the pressures of work and kids kicked in.

Then we bought our custom built home and over time as my wife said it was not a home it was a place we lived. We started coming apart at the seams.

The fights increased there was some two way physical issues...It was a house of turmoil. Sometimes neither one of us wanted to be there.

I can get into specifics but it will take 30 pages.

My anxiety built up due to money. lack of trust (unwarranted at the time..you know the old adage, if you accuse someone of having an affair eventually they will have an affair)

I just can believe the girl that I married, The woman who was upstanding and moral. The Lady who lost her virginity to me is now sharing the bed with another man, in a cheap hotel, miles from my home and we are not even legally separated...I am so sick over this..AND SO GUILT RIDDEN!!!