Let It Go

[BklynMom]

Labug posted about the song on her thread and its a favorite in my house these days so I thought it was appropriate way to start my new thread.

I also think I have already let go or so much and learning to let go and how to let has been one of the benefits of my situation.

Wanted to tell everyone to check out this article in this past weekends NY Times - A Second Embrace, With Hearts and Eyes ... By MARY ELIZABETH WILLIAMS. Its about a woman who remarries her exH.

Believe

[TL72*]

Here's the link to the article
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/03/16/fashio...Open-.html?_r=0

Thanks for posting about it - I want to believe!

[makingmagic]

I believe !!! Great article, TX BklynMom

[Maya2]

That is great to read. I Believe as well. Thank you for posting that.

[BklynMom]

I'm so glad you liked the article. It makes me really happy to share something people like.

If you liked that article you may also like the book - this isn't the season you think it is by Laura Munson. Her book totally saved my life the first few month.

[labug]

Hey BK, caught up a bit on your life. You have come so far.

We've been here nearly the same length of time.

Earlier today I was reading a blog I return to often. I randomly select and read old posts when I need inspiration. I landed on this today and as I was reading some of your last thread, it came to my mind again:

"We will begin to feel and will come to know the vastness of our emotions, but we will not be slaves to them."

Detachment has allowed me to have mastery of my emotions, instead of being a slave to them. It's a much calmer life. I have compassion for other people, when they are slaves to their own emotions and acting badly. I don't judge them for it, because I recall all too well what it was like to be in that place, but I also don't take responsibility for anyone else's anger today - I don't make anyone angry, just as nobody makes me angry. Anger often comes from the stories we tell ourselves about how the other person should be acting. Expectations create resentment. Resentment creates anger. Anger is a terrible master; I was a furiously angry person for the first 40 years of my life.
~TAAF

I wish you a calm life full of love.

[TL72*]

great post labug - thanks for sharing that!

[BklynMom]

Okay I need to come clean and just write about it.

My xH bought a decent used car. We live in bklyn so a car is an expensive extravagance. And my xH is constantly saying how little money he has.

Anyway the point ... I see that my exH buying a car a sign that things in his relationship with his gf are not as great as they once were. She has a car. There is no reason if they thought they were moving forward as a couple for them each to have a car.

I think their relationship is entering the more reality phase.

But why do I care...

I know once I admit this and put it out here I will care less.

Thanks

[labug]

I know once I admit this and put it out here I will care less.

Thanks

Good.
What is your mind trying to tell you that may not be true?

[BklynMom]

Labug, your question really puzzled me and I am very curious to know what you are getting at, because I have no clue.

Today at work I had a pretty big f-up. It messed up. I cant let it. I dont understand why I f-ed it up. It was such a simple thing but I had a lot going on at the moment and I dropped the ball.

I am beating myself up and realize how much I beat myself up about stuff.

I know I am not perfect but this mess up was 101 and am pissed at myself and embarrassed. I feel like a loser.

How do I let it go? I really dont know.

Alanon people say "say the serenity prayer" ... not working

Only thing that kind of helps is reminding myself that Tom Brady and Payton Manning both have lost big big games but they come back and play the next time. And they turn it on. This analogy helps.

Love you all for reading and listening. I wont have made it with out you