She has noticed my changes even called me a wonderful man, when I took her for granted, it was not spending time with her and drinking beer, not helping with house work. I would do it occassionally. I have been doing house work everyday, stopped drinking and have been giving her tons of affection, affermation etc.., I stopped being selfish and have been helping out more with step son. I even had a talk with him letting him know how much I love him etc... I'm not a looking for revenge and I do want to reconcille with her. I snooped to find out. yes its against DB principal, so I should be a door matt as she is out having an affair and she did file for divorce. I did ask if she was seeing someone and she denied it. When I got proof she stilled denied it. I did not argue with her or even yell at her, I did it with respect, calm etc...Marriage builders states expose the affair etc.. we have to do something different etc... I stopped snooping.
My question then is do what at this point go home crawl in bed with her and tell her I'm sorry. What is my course of action.
I requested to go to day shift its suppose to happen in the next couple of weeks.
I haven't been consumed with this affair, I found out about it and exposed it. It might work, it might not work. I undersatand DB doesn't want the affair exposed thats there principle, I understand.
i would like help. I talk to a coach and I was giving her all kinds of attention but her biggest complaint is I don't know if your changes will last. I told her I understand why she would feel that way.
