The other way to look at it is my W definitely doesn't tell me before hand what she is planning with our kids. She just had immunizations done with our D6 and informed me that is what she was doing, she didn't ask if I agreed. She DID tell me before she did it though.
Another example if our D6 just had a sleep over for the very first time away from either my W or I. My W didn't tell me about this at all, I heard about it from my D6 the day before it happened.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS