Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[Upwards]

In the past couple of months I've learnt that I'm a "fixer" and this makes H shut down & stop talking as he thinks I'm telling him what to do... I've learnt how to listen, validate what he's saying & just repeat what he's telling me rather than fix. I've also learnt how to say things in a way that he doesn't feel threatened or like I'm taking control - I try to remember these new things when talking (especially R talk) as it's a definite 180 and he's responded really well to it & has opened up more and more.

Go me, I've learnt a lot haven't I!!! haha