Upwards - DB myself to happiness! #2

[Scorp7]

If he brings up R talks do I allow him to open up or request we dont discuss?

I'd say if he wants to discuss the R then it would be best to let him open up. How you respond depends a lot on what you had done in the past.

If you can think back to what worked in your R when you had discussions and they went well versus what didn't work that should be your guide. This might be a spot to use a couple of the DB techniques, "act as if" or "180s".