Understand a little more now.

I guess she will be upset too because I sent a baby present and card to a couple I would consider mutual friends, but was her friend first.

Any advice on if I should tell her or wait to see if her friend tells her? Again, was not a manipulation tactic but I am sure it will be seen that way.

M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15