I hope you won't take this the wrong way, but I've been trying to put my finger on what it is about your posts that keeps gnawing at me. I mean, first off, you are obviously a very bright, articulate, funny, insightful woman, and that comes thru loud and clear.
Usually, I am having to advise people to care a little LESS . . . become more detached. But you seem like maybe you need to care a little . . . more?
Your descriptions of your sitch come across to me as almost FLIPPANT, even though there are obviously big issues on the table here.
In any event, I WOULD urge you to try to get back to that DB principle of "having the mind of a beginner." Much of your DBing seems "too cute by half" to me, and I'd just like to caution you that you may not know HALF of what you THINK you know about what your husband is thinking or doing.
Or, maybe you do, and you're just that good and I'm all wet.
Peace,
Starsky
P.S. HS is the best . . . you'll get GREAT advice from him!!
