The part of you that says "I would need to go to show that I like her family and we can have fun together"- needs to be hushed

Right now cant you plan something to do that day?????? (and it cant be work related) if she does grudgingly invite you youll be busy- but not with work.

Remember (and this applies to me as well) You werent just absent. You were absent AND you were a dink to be with when you were there. SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO- What happens when she realizes your not a dink to be with anymore???? Will she maybe want to ask you to spend time with her? (Note; This change does not happen quickly)

GREAT CALL ON THE BIRTHDAY PARTY

ME 38 W 37
T18 M5
D3
BD 1/7/13
PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing
2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13
W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13
First mediation appt 12/19/13