I for one am proud of you for ending your affair before it caused the profound damage it would have caused had you carried it on longer and had your husband find out. I think you are brave for ending it and being willing to take a look at the issues within yourself that led you to make the choice to have the affair in the first place. In my situation my wife is totally unwilling to cut off the OP, continues to "date" him, plans a trip out of town with him (and will lie to our children about who she is with to cover it up) and although she is in therapy, is totally unwilling at present to consider reconciling with me. It's hard as hell to DB under those circumstances, but in your case you have the benefit of NOT having an ongoing affair ruining every effort you make at healing your marriage.
I wish you all the best as you go through the troubled times and do make sure you come back often and check in with us...we are all pulling for you guys. And for what it's worth...be sure to forgive yourself for the affair. If you can't forgive yourself, you won't be able to forgive your husband for what troubles he has caused you, and forgiveness is the KEY to any reconciliation.
