Sorry I've been MIA - work, issues with kids and the estate have had me constantly busy offline. I didn't mean to stray for so long.
I know how hard this part of the process is. All I can offer is a cyber hug and the notion that it does get better. Right now he's posturing for battle (real or imaginary) and until he no longer feels the need to act out, you'll just have to leave him be and keep your eyes on your own road without giving in to his distractions.
Funny you mention the married woman... I have a friend who was married a really long time and she and her H divorced several years ago due to his chronic infidelity. She said she could always tell when George was single again, because he started picking fights with her and then finally escalated to trying to get her to try again. BUT when he's in a R, he's happy and kind and pretty much leaves her alone. Their youngest is now 19 and he has no real reason to contact her. They split amicably, share holidays with their new granddaughter, and just generally live comfortably. So I've found it interesting that she knows that much about her XH to figure out his patterns. You might be figuring them out subconsciously too.
Hope you're able to pull off the refi!
Now, go have a fabulous time at the beach, knowing that the home opener is but a week away. Yippee!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
