I did say I would have like to have been introduced to a couple of the senators she was talking to as i had never met them. W responded saying "with everything going on why would I". I dont know if i should consider that disrespectful; she didn't say it in a mean way just as a matter of fact.
Remember this experience and what she said. B/c when she gets miffed at you the next time she doesn't think you've shown enough consideration toward her......quote those words back, "With everything going on, why should I?"
Here's the thing about disrespect when it has been going on for a long time. You almost get accustom to it. If you don't speak up and stop it, for whatever reason, the next is a little worse. I think most men notice it and don't like it, but they think it wasn't bad enough to get into an argument with the W or have her sulked.....so he lets it pass.
When you wanted to sit on the couch, and she asked if you would give her space, were you sitting up against her? If not, you should have calmly but firmly told her that you will not sit on the carpet like the family pet and if she is that uncomfortable, she can move.
I know you have to choose your battles, and I'm not saying to make a huge scene over something minor.....but can you see the disrespect in her wanting you to move off the couch? She got away with it, so the next act of disrespect will be a little stronger. Those are tests. Just like a schoolyard bully, you have to stand your ground.
How can you be ready? One way is to imagine different scenarios and how you would respond. How would you handle it if she said something similar in front of other people? What would you do if she made a cutting remark about you (or to you)in front of your children or friends? Expect it, b/c she will try to see how far she can push your respect button.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
