All of these points will go into your parenting plan, Scorp. As for telling your wife what is happening, as long as you are reasonable with your decisions and are consistent in your actions she will grow to respect you even if she doesn't like you.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014
