I would like to STRONGLY back up the advice Lostlove gave you. I do understand the need for intimacy in a relationship, but comparing the fantasy land of being in a romantic little bubble with having a marraige with someone who shares the day to day reality of real life with you is just not valid.
Wanna bet Mr. MM has a wife at home who wishes he put some of that romantic effort into their M and make her feel wanted and special?
You have a real opportunity to turn your M around without going through the absolutely devastating experience (for both you and your H) of betrayal coming out into the light of day.
I am not trying to bash you at all here. I just hope that you take advantage of the current situation. Please do read DR and DB. After the Affair has been a big help to many. You might find the Five Love Languages very enlightening. You may find that your H has been expressing a great deal of love all along, but in a different "language" that you aren't picking up on.
