Need help saving my family - part 8

[Scorp7]

I've thought of a lot of things I'd like to do (take my kids back to my province, take my car back from my W, tell my in-laws in no uncertain terms that they are not involved in our situation and do not have a say in how our children are raised etc etc). None of them have anything to do with being strong. They would make me feel better but wouldn't do anything to improve the situation with my family.

If I took my kids back home with me it would only serve to have them torn between my W and I as she would immediately get a court order and have them returned to her province. I should have done that when she took them, I didn't. I was doing what I thought I needed to save my M at the time. I was a big time controlling a** in our marriage so the last thing I wanted to do at the time was to come off as still being a controlling jerk. Gotta love hindsight.

It has taken all the strength I have to be patient, kind ,caring etc. I could give in to negative feelings and for a short time I might feel better, maybe, but it definitely would not improve the situation.

I'm giving my W the time she says she needs to share the kids. If she doesn't agree to 50/50 or if she takes too long to decide then my L will be the one being nasty, not me.

I gotta say though, do you guys really believe that if I just TELL my W to do what I want she will listen just because I'm being a "strong" man?

Hey, I've made plenty of mistakes in my time and I've made a few more since my whole situation started so I definitely could be wrong with my approach to things.