I haven't really thought about this. I mean nobody is asking me if she's pregnant or anything, so I'm not lying to anybody. I guess I'm wondering what I could do to make things worse?
I was really thinking in future tense. I didn't mean you had done anything yet, but who knows what she may ask of you. For example, claim the child as your own, so the family won't be so hard on her, or so it doesn't "confuse" the other kids, etc. But when one starts trying to cover up the truth, then it calls for another lie and another. That's what I meant. But yes, it could actually get worse.
She is still in love with OM, and that's very unfair of her to expect you to take her back under those conditions. She is still a WAW and the problems have intensified. That's why it is very important that both of you attend family therapy.
Her main concern right now is getting support from someone. Sad to say, but she had nobody else to turn to. That is not the best reason for a WAW to return, but I'm sure you know.
So sorry for the pain you are in.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
