I am an almost WAW. My husband knows I am not happy in our marriage. He doesn't know I had an affair. I feel the affair (with a MM) was a necessary step for me to discover how unhappy I have been for many years, suffering from depression but not understanding why. The why I now understand because of the affair - the things I need to live - affection, tenderness, feeling loved and special, respect, compliments, being treated like a woman - are completely lacking in my marriage. So now that I really understand these needs I have, I am ready to work on getting that in my marriage. I don't know if it will be possible for my husband, but I have to try. So the question is - if the affair is over and he doesn't know, can I just treasure it as the special memory that it was?
