Hi I found out at xmas that my wife was having an affair with a work colleague.Although she had known him for 2 years it had only been going on for 2 weeks when I found out. She refused to stop as he was leaving the country the following week. As she put it, you were never meant to find out it was supposed to be a bit of fun for a couple of weeks before he left. I ebdured it, stupidly I know, as I didn't want to lose her and he is now gone although up until a month ago they were still in touch. We tried for weeks to work through things but eventually she left and got an apartment stating, I love you but I'm not in love with you. It has left me with two little boys and we are devastated. I read some of the tips such as not pursuing or begging and trying to do 180s etc but I have also made many mistakes such as trying to get her to discuss things and work at things. She says she needs to be on her own and right now it looks hopeless as she says she doesn't see herself returning. I have no clue what to do next as I lover her and miss her desperately. Any advice would be welcome
