She has not been to therapy (stopped attending joint therapy with me, though I continued), has no goals, plans or motivations to improve her life. She is tuck in the same spot she has been in 7 months ago, nay 8+ years ago. . . .
A friend said she is cake-eating; drops in when she wants to, then checks out back to her apartment goes incommunicado, when she's not. . .
Rather than focusing on her, I would recommend you and your counselor focus more on YOU. Why do you feel you might continue to be attracted to (at best) / in NEED of (at worst) such a woman? Is this really a woman of quality you should be pursuing like this?
A great read is "Co-Dependent No More." Time to get YOUR mojo back, and let her steer her own course (or not).
