Stay away from her family- If this is a request from your wife then do it.
Your not going swimming- If your "invited" you cant because you are busy
I do not agree with the "stay away from her family" comment. I would agree if I was showing her that I was doing these things, trying to show off to her. She found out that I gave the cards to the girls, I did not tell her and was never going to do so. This was a gift from their uncle. The SIL even told me that I would still be their uncle, no matter what happened. I am even a godfather to the middle girl. I am not religious, but this still has some significance to me.
In my opinion, if she is uncomfortable with me being involved with her family while they still like me it is an issue that she needs to work through. It does not match her perception of me, but I don't think I should back off because she does not like it. My continued contact with them has nothing to do with manipulating the W. I do not discuss the W or our R with her family or ask them to talk to her. The BIL and SIL even called two weeks ago and invited me out, there is no animosity between us and I do not feel the least bit awkward about it.
Why would you suggest no taking up on the invitation to go swimming? I am curious on your thinking here. After our messaging session last night, I highly doubt that the invitation will come.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
