My husband and I both have similar drives so frequency is not the issue. The problem is that I am not attracted to him at all. He says he is attracted to me, but there really is no passion. I feel like I am acting and that we are just shooting for the physical response. I look at him and I think Ugh!! Other people think he is handsome and he certainly is not overweight, but I just see someone who never bothers to look good for me, eats junk food, doesn't care about personal hygiene, etc. Of course, there are many, many other issues but it seems like everyone else here still has the attraction for each other but just has a difference in sex drives. Since I am not attracted to him, I don't feel a desire to work on improving the quality of sex.
