Stay away from her family- If this is a request from your wife then do it.
Your not going swimming- If your "invited" you cant because you are busy
I was over the top with separation issues when id have to drop D4 off in the AM and know I wouldnt see her again for 3 days. I was hyperventalating, crying screaming and filled with absolute hatred towards my X.
One of the best thing I did in the beginning was no drinking. I didnt have a sip between Jan and Aug 7 2013. It would have been waaaaaaaay to easy to mask the emotions.
Another thing I did was write 2 letters in my journal. #1 was to my Daughter #2 was to my X. Yes this forum is great but there are just some emotions so raw that need to come out- with no regrets later on.
"Do what works" - You have learned thus far....visiting her family does not, dressing smartly DOES, being more relaxed DOES, Spending time as a family does not - AT THIS TIME.
You need to continue your focus on being a strong INDIVIDUAL. Your still trying to force a square peg in a round hole.
You are doing well....this is an absolute bizitch- If I can share with you one thing to save you from another unnecessary punch to the gut-----thats why we are here
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
