It doesn't matter how much time, thought, money you put into a gift, it's not a gift if it's something you like vs something that speaks to your partner.
I used to work with someone whose H bought her a new Lexus and she complained, was angry even. I thought she was crazy but when I asked her why she was angry, her explanation made sense. She liked her old car, the Lexus was too expensive, he didn't ask her if she wanted a new car, she felt he bought it more for show for him, rather than a gift for her.
He didn't take her wants or needs into account. He didn't "get" her.
They later Dd, not over this event but this behavior was probably common in their R.
My H and I took the quiz together, it has been helpful to our reconciliation.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
