W texts me as im leaving friends place and asks if i could bring home some single dollar bills for something for kids school. I text back sure and got home at 10pm and W was watching tv. She says hi and I said great political campaign kickoff event tonight. She couldn't stop talking about it ...i just listened ...made a few comments but nothing to start a debate. I did say I would have like to have been introduced to a couple of the senators she was talking to as i had never met them. W responded saying "with everything going on why would I". I dont know if i should consider that disrespectful; she didn't say it in a mean way just as a matter of fact. She moved around at the event talking to the people she knew and I did my thing. I didn't want to follow her around. When things were good between us we moved around together and we would introduce each other with "this is my husband, x" and vice versa. When we were talking at home I moved from sitting on the carpet to the couch where she was and she said can you give me some space ...i said sure I'm going to go to bed anyway, so I got up, said goodnight first and went to bed. I heard her come up an hour later.
This morning W says shes taking our daughter to the store after work to get some birthday presents for our son - he turns 6 this week. I said fine, I will pick them up from school, get through there school stuff and have our daughter ready to go. W said we can talk later about dinner plans. I said fine. W said when she gets back from shopping she's making cupcakes for school for our boys birthday. I plan to just leave her alone doing that tonight unless she asks for my help.
We are working together to get the household and other duties done as we always have. As long as she is respectful of me i can live with that. I will admit that the perception I had before when things were this way was that the marriage relationship is getting normal and we can get back to being that happy family. But Sandi has opened my eyes, just because W and I are working together to do what needs to be done is not having my W stop the D. She is just being nice and if I let down my guard and assume this is a positive step and pursue her in any way like trying to do lunch or hug/touch her, I know she will not be so nice. My plan is to just get on with GAL, work on my behavioral 180s and just see where it goes... if anyone thinks I'm "off base" in my approach, I welcome your feedback.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
