This is not easy on you. I'm sorry. It's a bit of a double whammy. Many of us deal with affairs but not the added confusion of questioning sexuality so my heart goes out to you. But I know you can do this. Regardless of what your W learns about herself, as hard as it is, you have to keep in mind that the discovery is hers to make.
Stay focused on Dyno. I know you have the cabin to get some "you" time at, but what about other GAL activities? What are some hobbies, old and new, that you would like to pour some energy into? You are the most important person to you right now. Be your best friend!
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13