Barrybran IV - Three Years Forward, 30 Years Back

[Barrybran]

I agree that I have to communicate with her but she is not interested. When it came up several weeks ago I asked what she wanted to do about it. She suggested a chore chart but never presented one to me. She had nothing else to say and wasn't interested in sharing or thinking about it. Same story when it came up the other day. She expressed that she feels the only way she contributes is by paying bills. She said she feels like a terrible Mum. I listened, validated, asked her what chores she wanted to do and she got frustrated with me. I even tried asking her what chores would make her most feel like a good Mum. Crazy, but nothing else was working. No surprises though that this idea didn't work either.

I can't listen if I'm not given anything to listen to. I'm also not a mindreader, try as I may.