You have to COMMUNICATE with her....It may be tough and she may be mean, but you have to COMMUNICATE with her. Just leaving chores undone isn't the answer....nor is you doing all the chores (using time that you good be GAL'ing). Don't make yourself a list for this conversation either.
Use your DB skills and first understand, then be understood techniques. My suggestion really would be that you do the day to day quick cleaning that needs to be done everyday (dishes, cooking, etc) and let her do those once a week cleaning things like moping, etc.
Remember that more than anything....I think your wife really wants you to just listen to her.....and stop the listening and then go do what you do without regards to her. Think about that B...It causes you issues with the her in regards to finance, shopping, kids, and even cleaning.
And it is something multiple people have pointed out to you.
