Things have been going ok, but not great. I've been doing my GAL, and 180s, and they have been noticed. My WAW said something about now living with 100 ironies because I am so different. I just brushed it off, and didn't get into it.
I've been away with my kids, and came back. Minimal contact with my WAW wife and kids. She had been off on holidays as well, but had returned to work this week.
Now, as we are physically separated, I have been doing LRT. She complained she feels vulnerable when I don't respond to her texts, but I don't care. I've gotten advice from a L, who told me to maintain finances the way they are. However, I feel this really contradicts with LRT. I also know time is on my side according to lots of vets, but I'm not sure if I should be pushing to file, get a mediated agreement etc. I have determined what I want, and that is my kids. Of course it may not be that simple.
I'm trying to be aloof and mysterious as well. Bit of a funny question that I think I know the answer too already . Any harm in meeting women for coffee etc. Just as part of getting out. I understand I'm not in an emotional state to offer anything, but I just want to go out and feel good about myself. With the kids staying with me all the time, I don't get out much. I do know the bar scene violates Sandi's rules, and that's not me anyways. Of course if I was only doing it to make my WAW jealous, there would be no point I know.
So with respect to LRT, given where I'm at, I know this may take awhile. I need strength, courage and a belief that I can achieve my goals. I am trying to measure my results. I feel I had better results when I was playing nice before, she was questioning her decisions more . However clearly not enough . She still moved from her friends to her own place. So the strength and encouragement to stay on the LRT path is what I need , and continued detachment. Thanks to everyone for reading my rambling thoughts.
