Need help saving my family - part 8

[melissag]

I agree with Barry about the phone. In the early days of our S, my H told my D he might give her a phone (we had previously agreed NO WAY until she is much older). I asked my DB coach whether I should let it go or bring it up and she said, nope, say nothing - if he gets her one, that's his deal. You don't have to let her use it when she is with you. So that is my plan, should that ever happen.

It sounds like, as part of your parenting time arrangement, you need to have a set time each night to speak with the kids when they are with W, and when your W can speak with them when they are with you. Since she isn't being very flexible at the moment, make it very specific - 7:20-7:45 or whatever it is that works.

I hope that your W responds in a reasonable time and agreeing to a reasonable arrangement.