Oneday - How ya doing? Been a long time. You keeping busy?
Right now you're number one priority is those boys. Be their rock no matter how hard it is. They will appreciate it and you'll build a bond like you never imagined with them.
This next bit of advice may be tough to do but since she moved out it might be time for you to pull back and not offer to help. She made the decision to leave so now she has to figure out what that new life will look like. It's tough and it may shock her a little. More importantly it will force you to concentrate only on you and the boys without having to worry about helping someone else at this point.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
