Well first of all I'm really sorry you're in this predicament. This stuff is tough so at least you found this place. Second I wanted to just reach our from one Michigander to another.
I think you're doing the right thing with not pressuring her and just letting things move along. This process is a long one and nothing good will come from pressuring her at all.
I think it's awesome how you're involved with your kids. Word of advice I was given early on is no matter what happens never bash their mom in front of them because no matter what she will always be their mom so well done there. I know how hard that can be sometimes but that's one of the best pieces of advice I received.
With all that and reading your story a little bit I'm just curious what it means to you when you say you're taking the 180 degree approach. What type of things are you doing differently? And... are you doing these 180's for her to see and maybe react to or are you doing some that you feel you need to do for you?
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