The book has made things crystal clear for me. It's as thought Dr Chapman has been living with us this whole time. I thought my wife didn't love me and I can now recall many times that she showed her love but it was in her language and not mine. The same goes from me to her. I spent so much time chasing after the house and kids and suggesting we do things together when she responded more to gifts. Pretty silly in hindsight. I definitely want her to read it some time.


Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014