Bunches, I agree that it feels cheap when you get something as a reaction to a complaint.
When we were going down hill I was the one who was constantly making advances to ML. Like a lot of me this would be at night when we went to bed. (I now know better.) After a while I felt like she was only doing it to get me to stop my advances; it felt cheap. So I stopped making advances and she never made one for months.
When I stopped I also failed to realize I was slipping into neurosis/depression and I failed to notice that I was not even making advances. We lost our physical connection in the end.
So yes I do understand that it can feel cheap too, but I should have appreciated that she was ML with me because she wanted too. If she did not want to, she did not have to.
Barry, I agree with the 5LL. I would love my W to read it. When she talks about the past now I chuckle in my head at how she see things in our past. We both felt like we were working our asses off to show each other love and the other person didn't care. If she read the book I think it might change her opinion of our past.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15