oh hope,I have those same fears about dating, too. I started dating my H in high school. I have a feeling that in the adult world it doesn't quite work to do something like leave a note in someone's locker saying "do you want to go out with me?" It is really scary and I fear that I'll get too attached way too fast because I don't know how to do the dating "game". But, as you said, we're getting way ahead of ourselves. The thought has actually crossed my mind about whether I'd be OK dating someone my age w/ kids and being a stepmom! I haven't actually tried it yet, but practicing meditation/mindfulness may help, or googling for sites on those subjects? Those practices focus on being in the present and fully aware of it, rather than being distracted by the past or possible future. I've been reading a book called "Codependency for Dummies" and there's a section on "spiritual practices" and how they help with decreasing worry.
Me:30 H:29, no kids T:12, M:4 (when D was final) 12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore" 6/14: Separated (I move) 1/15: H filed for D 5/15: D final
It is really scary and I fear that I'll get too attached way too fast because I don't know how to do the dating "game". But, as you said, we're getting way ahead of ourselves. The thought has actually crossed my mind about whether I'd be OK dating someone my age w/ kids and being a stepmom!