RT,

Some day I'd like to go back to the Caribbean soon. Sounds like you had a ton of fun down there!

I think she's getting closer to being able to hear my pain.

Are you comfortable with the direction W is heading in regard to hearing your pain? Do you sense that she is starting to understand it?

Did I mention I'm 40? That means I'm TIRED.

Ugh. I'm with Bug on her assessment of your thought process on the BIG 4-Oh. Sheesh, I was a whirlwind at age 40 playing golf 2 times a week!

Back to my marriage, W and I ML for the first time since she came home while we were in the islands. It was not planned and spontaneous. It was fun and without pressure.

Did that help you two connect at the intimate, emotional level? Was there a shift at all afterward?

Forget lunar timing!!! If I were go by it, I'd be a ragging nympo or worse--with bare teeth and hairy face! grin