Well it's probably too late, but I've gotta try

[sandi2]

I don't think you should have agreed to not tell anyone about the pregnancy, but I "think" I see why you had rather she tell it first. Of course, she will be giving her version.......however or whatever, but people usually try to make themselves sound better than they really are. What about your parents?

I hope you won't start covering up the truth.....for her. That would make things worse.

When she says she will be mad if OM doesn't snow up, is she referring to being with her at the doctor s office? That is not a good sign at all. She is clearly not detached from him, and being pregnant usually draws the woman emotionally closer to the father of the child.

Have you told her you need time to think about things? Don't call her Tuesday. She wants OM there, not you. If you contact her, then she will see it as an open door to contact you while you are trying not to be influenced from her.

I

have this sneaking suspicion that the reason OM dumped her was he didn't want to provide child support for the next 18 years and he figured that she would go back to me and I would support the kid. My W has also told me that OM feels threatened by me that W will always want to go back to me. So who knows, maybe he's testing her and I'm just a pawn.

Of course OM doesn't want to support the child! But the rest of that paragraph........forget it. Like I said before, your W knows what to say to you.