Unicorns, Big Foot, and the WAS...

[paul19510]

Well, interesting day.

I had IC today, and I told him about all the happs from last week. He is really pushing me to decide when enough's enough. His view is that H only wants to communicate via text right now, and there can't be real emotional connection through a text message. His point is that H isn't making any real effort, so at what point do I want more?
My response: I'm not at a point where I can make that statement. I'm not sure when I will be there. Of course I want more NOW, but H can't give that to me now, so it is what it is. I'll know when I get there.
He agreed. He also said he's pretty sure he's guessing correct that Hs focus is on his D18 right now, and perhaps he can only focus on one thing. I said that's fine, because I really need to focus on finishing my degree, and his D18 needs him more.
Bottom line: at some point it will most likely be my decision to declare the status quo is not enough. I am certain that's how it will play out, but just not sure when I will get there...

Also, I thought H would go in to hiding after our texting "incident" on Friday, but he showed up today to take care of the dogs like always. He sent me a friendly text and left me a note asking if I wanted to take the dogs on a walk this week.

But, really, I don't. I'm swamped with deadlines for school and super stressed. And I feel I need to take a step back from H for a minute...

I need to ponder this one.

Hi Artsy, I had the same discussion with T in January and then had that "...ok here's where I'm at..." discussion with W in February. its a personal choice and there's no right or wrong time. It is what it is...

Just understand where YOU are. some people tell you to hang in there no matter what. I don't know. Telling them that you're moving "forward with your life..." isn't necessarily giving up I suppose. You can see with my thread that I still have a long ways to walk. Paperwork is just paperwork