Go I share the feelings of frustration to those you have expressed. It’s very tough and you’re doing great DBing to use the boards to vent (as opposed to communicating to the WAS). I feel in my case the WAS is being selfish and the experience of me and our baby daughter are being ignored or rationalised. & that is hard for me to “bury”.
How I (try to) deal with this is to accept that I cannot control my WAS’ thinking or behaviour and that I don’t have perfect information about what she’s going through. It’s using the “act as if” concept to help see and think about all of her actions in the best possible light.
WASs are often very afraid and fear is a difficult to overcome. If people let their fear win-out, they suffer the most.
Despite everything, be gentle and kind & you’ll sleep easy.
