Regarding "taking a wife". I have explained to the therapist and EW that I would like to be married for life to "someone" and grow and learn together. When I said that, I only meant that if the divorce IS final, I am very likely to find someone else and move on and I have read that if things work a little "to well" between Xs, it can be an issue.
On a side note that maybe was not clear, I refer to her as my W and a divorce, BUT we were never married! Remember we engaged but she took the ring off without saying anything.
I think what started some of it is our visit to a place to FINALLY get married. It is a super neat place that we both love BUT we never even discussed how we want the wedding to be. I had something in my mind, her idea was totally different. Instead of talking about it, she got bent, stopped talking, and things went down hill.
We are both very organic people, love trees, green, etc. BUT, I like to go a little overboard and she likes simple.
