3bm, I could have written 90% of that myself!! H said he has no negative feelings towards me anymore and his positive are growing, he actually treats me with some respect now instead of just looking straight through me and taking me for granted. My H's mindset is the same as far as not wanting to hurt me, scared of it not working out, scared of being "trapped" and unhappy, scared of things going back to how they were etc.

I'm sorry your in this position I truly am - I have done much the same last week & effectively dropped the rope, I couldnt do it anymore and made the decision to let go fully and prepare for life without my H. Hardest thing ever done as i've completely cut contact but has to be done for my own sanity.

Positive is also that its prompted him to end things with OW (he said it wasnt going anywhere anyway) and he said its given him a huge kick up the butt to reassess his life & figure out what he wants from life - who knows what that will be but its got to be better than him burying his head in the sand & pretending this isnt happening.

Shame there is no private message function on here. Big hugs to you, keep your chin up, your an AWESOME Mum and your doing amazingly well.

Divorce Final: Oct 2014

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