Gifts - DB v 5LL

[gogofo]

I understand the dilemma. The W and I had our first 'talk' last week and while she was venting she stated my aversion to 'gifts' as an issue. Gifts is one of her top LL and even talked about how she was given flowers by an old janitor where she works. He said that she was someone who deserves flowers for no reason at all.

This stung quite a bit because after reading 5LL I know that she would appreciate them from me, if she wasn't a WAS. I know for sure now that would see them as manipulation and not from the heart. I had bought her flowers before she moved out, but was in such an emotional state that she felt I was trying to manipulate her.

"Change their vision of history" - While we talked she said that I never bought her flowers. Um yeah only a week and a half before you left, but we can forget that because they weren't perceived as a natural organic thought, only reactionary to how she felt about our MR.

WAS and their perception of things can be quite challenging.